OK so writing about Mikey Z was easy. I didn’t really have anything bad to say about him and it’s not like we’re gonna get married or something. Though even while writing that post, I found myself censoring the story. And there have been other dates I’ve wanted to write about but I’m hesitant to say anything mean. I like these people. But to be true to the project, I’ve got to be open, right? Plus, there’s one boy in particular who I really like and well, I’m not writing about him at all. It’s like he’s got this protected status. I don’t want to fuck anything up or belittle any of our experiences by sharing them with the world. It’s all too complicated for a blog. He’s the biggest supporter of the open source dating project but he still asked me not to write about him. He’s totally cool with me belittling my experiences with other boys. Just as I started analyzing my own thoughts on the open source dating project and really thinking about what’s most valuable to me – a hilarious blog or fulfilling relationships – my friend Zoe left a very insightful comment on a recent post here:
I gave the concept of open source dating some thought over the past few days, and decided that i absolutely oppose the idea of it. Not only does it demystify everything that’s fun and special about attraction, it encourages the sort of sewing circle mentality i so dislike. That anyone should require or desire the opinions of others [especially an interWORLD of others] to make dating decisions is bewildering to me.
Alas, I think the open source dating project is a HILARIOUS idea but could only really work if it were anonymous. And well, then it loses the whole point. What interests me about it is how it pushes social and personal boundaries. Perhaps we’ll revisit this but for now, I’m taking some time off.